http://www.theconstructedlife.com The way you take care of this moment creates the next Tue, 04 Nov 2008 22:11:51 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Back by popular demand, the Fourth Annual New Year's Resolution special coaching program will launch on December 1st. Reserve your slot now. Don't miss out. I only offer this three month, deep-discounted, laser coaching program through March 1st. Go here for more details. http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/11/04/fourth-annual-new-years-resolution-special-offer/ First, let’s demystify them. A New Year’s Resolution is nothing more than a commitment made at the end of the year. The only difference is that instead of making it to someone else you’re making it to yourself. If you’ve had a hard time keeping Resolutions in the past take a ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/11/04/new-years-resolutions-how-to-make-em-so-you-keep-em/ Buddhists speak of a Noble Truth – that life is suffering. Not necessarily physical suffering – like when you have a bad back – but the ordinary everyday suffering that comes with being human. Call it suffering or call it sadness, disease or discomfort. The fact of the matter is ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/11/01/dont-get-attached-to-your-work/ 1. Bedsores. (When you hang around in one place for too long it starts hurtin’). 2. You’re needed. (And you won’t know how or why unless you start the ball rolling). 3. You have much to offer. (No matter how bad things are. Some of us are gurus; some of us are ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/29/top-ten-reasons-to-get-up-in-the-morning/ Top Ten Hints to Finding Reality It’s way bigger than a breadbox and it’s in your visual field not between your ears. It presents no problems only opportunities for action. It has what you need when you need it. It doesn’t require anything of you except your presence. You can’t lose it. You can’t fight ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/28/top-ten-hints-to-finding-reality/ This is it. The deep, dark secret that all women deny. We don’t want nice men. We won’t tolerate them unless they’re related to us by blood or interviewing us for a job. Sure, they can buy us dinner every once in a while. But we don’t want to date ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/27/women-make-passes-at-guys-who-are-asses/ Question: My husband I fight all the time. I try to avoid them but he really knows how to push my buttons. He keeps picking fights with me and I try not to fall for it. But he really knows how to push my hot buttons. ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/26/ask-the-coach-vending-machine-model-of-relationships/ Question: My boyfriend lives in Florida and is pushing me to move there. I’ve visited him and I hate where he lives. He can’t move because of work. I’m not happy without him but I don’t think I’d be happy in Florida. Do you ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/25/ask-the-coachto-move-or-not-to-move/ This is my one of my favorite Constructive Living maxims. It takes a little thinking about. It has that Zen-like obfuscation factor which can be irritating to some – but which I love. It’s not a call to lemming-like suicide as you might think. Perhaps another C.L. maxim ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/24/run-to-the-edge-of-a-cliff-and-stop-on-a-dime/ We talk a lot about Holidays being stressful. But let’s think about this. It’s not every Holiday, is it? No matter how many wieners or burgers you grill; no matter how many tons of potato salad you make we don’t think about July 4th as being stress-inducing. Or Labor Day, ... http://www.theconstructedlife.com/2008/10/15/four-easy-ways-to-de-stress-your-holidays/